Dovina15 May 2005

zodiac, I’m responding to your several comments about relationship. I disagree that “two important aspects of the relationship are some common understanding of the nature, formed early on, and, yes, sexual compatibility.” That’s such a male thing to say and ignores a woman’s view altogether. Yes, women want good sex, and yes, we want some cerebral understanding of why we are in the relationship, but these are secondary. When you say, “I don't agree that emotional support is the most important aspect of relationshipping,” you have killed the most important thing to us and replaced it with your own needs and desires. As a woman who has loved a man, I had no desire to deny his needs and desires; I wanted to meet them because I favored his happiness equal with my own. So we worked together at compromises and gratification of each other. By the way, if what you want most is good sex, and I don’t believe it is, then it’s going to be much better when she is emotionally thinking that you care a great deal about her emotions.